Being THE best or being YOUR best

FOR ARCHETYPE: 10: Blended DIM Problem-Solver (BMP)

WHAT THEY'RE EXPERIENCING: Comparing themselves to others

TOPIC: Happiness

Every four years, we witness amazing athletes from all over the world coming together to compete in the Olympic and Paralympic Games.  What I enjoy most are the interviews and commentaries before and after the events, and the pride and joy of the supporters who have travelled the long road with the competitors to be there.

As a child I was praised by my parents for doing well at school, and that motivated me to always work hard and aim to be top of the class.  I also wanted to be in the first netball team, the top country dancing set, and so on, and was disappointed if my school report had anything less than As in it.

At age 17 I burned out, dropped out of school and pursued a more practical route into my then chosen career.  Nearly 50 years later I finally freed myself from the belief that if I was not academically qualified, or did not hold enough professional qualifications, I was not as worthy as those who did.

So well done to those athletes, at a much earlier stage of their life, who did not win a gold medal but were proud to have competed and done their very personal best, graciously congratulating the winners and celebrating the efforts of their teammates.

Well done to Andy MacDonald, at 51 the oldest skateboarder in the 2024 Olympics who was simply happy to be there and do his best; to Eddie the Eagle for his determination to compete in the 1988 Winter Olympics ski jump; to Eric the Eel, who in 2020 finished way behind the other swimmers in his 100m heat yet finished his race anyway.

And of course, congratulations to all the winners in any race or competition, for their strength, skill, endurance, courage, perseverance, and overcoming.

There is only one queen in a hive of bees or colony of ants, yet every single worker has a vital role to play in ensuring the success and continuation of the community and the species.

Every single human being has their own unique set of talents, however insignificant their role may appear. So when you come to the end of this life what really matters is that you can say, hand on heart, that you absolutely did your best, and in so doing fulfilled your life purpose.

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I can say ‘I used everything that you gave me’”   Erma Bombeck, 1927 – 1996, American humourist and writer

About the Creator

Sue Daly
Sue Daly
Key Seeker
I'm Sue Daly, a coach who works with you to see what you're truly good at – and to start believing it. When you know your strengths and trust them, everything shifts: how you feel about yourself, how you show up, and the difference you can make to the lives around you.

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